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Dear KRS,
Can you help a 48yr old hospital staff RN that averages 50 hr. work weeks? I've been an RN for 5 yrs. My husband divorced me 2 yrs ago after 26 yrs of marriage. I'm 5' 2'' and weigh 180 lbs. I have trouble sleeping and I’m always tired. I want to exercise and keep trying to start, but I just can't keep motivated. Same with dieting.
I'm a good nurse, I care a lot about my patients and I kill myself trying to do what’s expected of me by the hospital (paper work, # of Patients, etc.) and giving proper care to my patients. I need some relief!
Nurse Who Can’t Heal
Herself
Dear Nurse,
If you don’t take time to care for yourself soon, you may indeed “kill” yourself taking care of others. When you say you’re trying to do what is “expected” of you, ask yourself, “Is this what’s expected of others in my position and if so, are they fulfilling their duties effortlessly?”
In other words, perhaps you are taking on more than you need to because you “think” more is expected of you. This is just a guess, but it may be worth examining, especially if you are a “people pleaser.” If you feel that more is required of you than others, talk with your superior and express this. Nothing beats clear communication.
Then set aside a specific time for you to exercise 5-6 days a week. I’d like you to start with only 5-10 minutes a day. Get into the habit of it and do not miss, no matter what. You can add 5 minutes every few weeks, if you like, but do not be too ambitious in the amount of time you commit. Less is more at first, and consistency is everything.
Your sleep should improve when you are exercising regularly. Your self-esteem will pick up once you realize you are a worthwhile person and that there is no need to punish yourself for a failed marriage.
Stock up on healthful foods once a week – how about Sundays? Stick with the plan and keep a calendar of your success (days you stuck to your plan). The motivation will grow with your momentum.
KRS
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