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Dear KRS,
I am presently faced with some very difficult situations at work as well as at home, and I need some help and guidance. The stressful life I have been living is starting to show its effects – anxiety, panic attacks at night, disturbed sleep, a mild phobia, etc. 

Things are quite complicated, and I am not sure I could explain them in a satisfactory manner in a few paragraphs, but I will try to focus on what is the most pressing right now. 

I work for a very good company and I have quite a good job. The problems at work are of a relational nature. When I started with this company, I was very stressed and in a state of anxiety (it looks like it is a chronic problem with me), and because of this, I did a number of things that I think were misinterpreted by my colleagues. For this reason, I was not fully accepted by the team members. 

This feeling of isolation made me say and do even more things that were not well taken. I finally got to a point where I felt I couldn’t take it any more and I decided to quit, but after a lot of thinking, I decided to try to fix things. The problem is that I continue to feel isolated, stressed, anxious and unhappy. Given the fact that I don’t feel any motivation to work because of these feelings, I need to find a solution pretty quickly if I want to continue working for this company. Do you have any suggestions? 
Anxiety from Job

Dear Stressed,
First, statistics show that most people experience high levels of stress at least once a week, so you are not alone even though you may feel that way. Problems in the psychological realm are often blown up bigger than necessary, when there thankfully are some very effective solutions. All your symptoms – panic attacks, insomnia, work relationships and so forth are, as you know, related to the ONE thing – stress. It’s sometimes helpful to understand that you don’t have lots of unrelated problems to solve. 

When you say you decided to “fix” things, I’m not sure what you mean, but I hope it was along the lines of communication. In other words, people DO understand and empathize (don’t mix that up with pity) surprisingly well when you express your problems openly and truthfully. Once you open yourself to your coworkers they may surprise you with similar stories and helpful suggestions such as counselors, books and other resources. Also, many companies have their own employee stress management programs so you might want to check into that as well.

A few other suggestions. Exercise. Sweat at least 20 minutes each day, no matter when or how you have to fit it in. It releases endorphins (your own natural pain killer and anti-depressant). Also, take time out to relax (not TV watching) – meditate, take a jacuzzi, talk with friends and family, take nature walks. Make a list of those things you would enjoy doing and then INK them into each and every day, even if only for a few minutes.
KRS

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Dear KRS,
I'm extremely stressed out over work lately! I'm slacking off and just can't seem to pull it all together.  It feels like my life is crumbling before me! What can I do to release some of this tension?
Stressed at Work

Dear Stressed at Work,
Unresolved stress gets trapped in the body and creates a feeling of internal pressure, like a volcano ready to explode.  Your instinct is right - to "release" the built-up tension.  The trick is not to release it in a destructive way, such as taking it out on those around you.  Here are a few suggestions to release the tension in a constructive way that can actually be quite therapeutic:

1)  Hit a pillow or mattress until you are exhausted.  Rest 30 seconds and repeat this process three times.  Don't be surprised if, by the end, tears come.   It's just your volcano's way of erupting - and releasing the stored tension.

2)  Scream and yell out loud.  A good place to do this is in your car or into a pillow (if you have neighbors).

Even if you think it seems silly, give it an honest try and you will be amazed at how effective and simple it is.

Naturally, you also want to do what you can to minimize your job stress, such as communicating your feelings to your boss or even consider changing jobs. 

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